MULTI SEXUAL PARTNERSHIP AMONG YOUTH
The keen pleasure, a deep overthrow
Nowadays, world is characterized by many changes in youth’s behaviors in utter confusion of elders. The multi sexual partnership that most of the young people are addicted to, is one of these changes. Despite the sensitizations done at many levels on the consequences of this phenomenon, youth take an uggly pleasure to practice it and even give it some reasons.
Maroufatou Oladjidé KAKPO
Sexual relationships were in the past respected, sacred and protected. The current observation is that the thing is characterless. Some young people don’t respect anymore the sacred nature of their sexual intercourse. Expressions like » I love you », » my darling », » my love » are meaningless nowadays. In fact, intimate life is more based on fantazy. And on it, reasons are shared since the main thing is to reach goals most of the time sex, money, pleasure… The regardless of intimate relationship leads youth to multi sexual partnership without any compunction. According to Armand, a young man, sex is created for the pleasure and youth must take profit of this. « It is for nothing that God created woman for man », he affirmed. « Young people go to multi sexual partnership because of money and pleasure. Also it is the envy of the envy to have many sexual partners, show his strength and have experiences on women’s matter », explained Ganiath, student at Uit. Then, the 3T (Tout trou est trou) is applied.
Typology of multi sexual partnership
There are two kinds of multi sexual partnership: polygamy (a man with many women) and polyandry (a woman with many men). Polygamy existed since old days and but society always rejected and the perceived it as bad.
Sexuality is like thirsty or hunger. When need is, it must be satisfied. The young teenager is willing to show his strength and audacious. Then, the teenager the 3T’s rule (Tout Trou est Trou) is applied, the main thing is to be a woman. Neurosis can also lead to such behavior; men are looking for their mother through women and women their father through men. « Sometimes it said that child is at his parents’ image. Because he lived with a father used to change women, the boy child may want to imitate it. Then, not finding this comfort, the young teenager may abandon himself to multi sexual partnership, toxicomania, ambitious… », explained adviser at the center of young people on sexual reproduction.
Furthermore, the general level of education increase multi sexual partnership because, by the time that the young’s level of education increase, this behavior become more recurrent. Young men who multiply their sexual partners, most of the time do it to prove their strength of being man. By the same way, there are girls who multiply partners just because they are proud to be beautiful and desired by many men. We also bad gang or friends, telenovelas which are only fictitious in reality. When talking about love relationship, for young it means sex, lies and betrayal. « While it is a live union and for that confidence and serious are necessary », confessed Eugene Agboton, man of family.
Money from buttocks’ sweat
The easiest love, enormous ambitious and poverty lead young people, the majority of girls to multi sexual partnership. « I am not living with my parents, they are at the village and even waiting from me to survive because I am the elder. I apse have to buy documents, do some Xeroxes and foods », Florence student in third year at Faseg admitted. « I have four sexual partners, I am lucky to meet men who can help me; I can’t refuse and go back to village with empty pockets. We do not eat dignity after all », she hardly confessed.
In fact, financial difficulties lead some women to multiply their partners hoping to gain any advantage. According to Alvine, a hairdresser’s beginner, girls must use their girlhood to take profit of men before marriage. « Once you get married, it is over. You will stop this kind of relationship and other reality start with your husband. Luck doesn’t come twice in life », she said. Salima supports the idea and said, « Woman is synonym of money because she has many needs to satisfy ». She continued, « when you envy your mate who has money and dress herself better than you, you are obliged to ask money to men who will ask for your sex in return, (laughs), we need money then we agreed ».
Fleshy’s pleasure destroys the body
From the explanations of Mabou Ahokpossi, doctor at mother and child health’s departure, the person involved in multi sexual partnership exposes his/her self to the risk of losing his/her sexuality control, precocious and unwanted pregnancies, abortion, mother death rate and sexual transmitted diseases such as Aids, hepatic, syphilis… Samuel, former student, after his experience in multi sexual partnership expressed himself, « I had an active sexual life since I was in secondary school form five. I had sex with many girls per week. Two girls got pregnant for me in form six ». Today, he continued with tears at his eyes, « I am suffering of syphilis and I don’t have means. Those young men who practiced multi sexual partnership destroyed themselves ».
Today, it is certain life’s conditions increase the level of needs but there is always a choice and good to make. This choice is « have a good sexual’s health », as Jeannette advice. Although carnal desire is a gift of God but ones must have self-control. Youth must discuss about this with their parents instead of their mate who will just tell them what they want to hear. Multi sexual partnership causes mental and physical injuries. But whatever the choice, consequences will be heavy to bear. The ultimate mean to escape all these troubles is to never go to multi sexual partnership.
